Jan 8, 2013
Sep 14, 2012

Dating by Design: the book

What if we could design our way to a better relationship?

For centuries, designers of all kinds – from Industrial Designers to Graphic Designers, Architects to Advertisers – have been developing innovative ways to approach complex design challenges.

In Dating by Design, the tools, strategies, methods and ideas of some of history’s greatest designers are applied to the often-challenging realm of human relationships.

Blending humour with practical advice and wisdom, Dating by Design aims to help the reader navigate the complexities of modern love to improve the quality, health and durability of their relationships.

For too long we have accepted relationships as being “too complex”, “magical”, or “messy” to be within our control.Dating by Design asserts that anyone can learn how to design a better relationship with pen, paper and a little creativity.

I am in the early phases of writing Dating by Design: the book, and I would love your help. Are you a designer who has an interesting strategy to share from your dating and/or design life? Are you a publisher who would like to get first access? Are you an individual who would like to learn more about Dating by Design? I’d love to hear from you at a@aylanewhouse.com.

Sep 13, 2012

The Relationship Audit

One of the first tasks for a designer working on a complex design project is to take stock and inventory of the assets, content, materials and branding elements that currently exist.

As dating is a similarly complex design project, a process of taking inventory and reflecting on previous relationships is a crucial early step in developing a meaningful, positive relationship.

Using the idea of a web content audit as a jumping off point, I’ve created a “Relationship Audit” that helps you reflect on and assess your previous relationships.

Just as a web content audit helps a designer filter through the important words, images, links, videos, etc., a Relationship Audit helps you filter through the details of your past and see a bigger picture of what relationships have meant to you.

The goal of the Relationship Audit is threefold: to acknowledge the past and how it impacts the present, to let go where necessary, and to avoid similar mistakes. Presented in a spreadsheet format, it includes questions like:

3. Describe that time in your life (what was important to you, how did you feel)

6. What you would change about this relationship (would you still have it, what conversation would you have had that you didn’t?)

Once you have completed the Relationship Audit spreadsheet, you should read each category and look for similarities. Are they positive? Are there things you want to avoid repeating?

If you’d like a copy of the Relationship Audit, or to book a free 30 minute Dating by Design consultation, please email a@aylanewhouse.com.

Aug 16, 2012

Dating by Design: Human Centred Relationship Consulting

Whether you’re single and looking for help developing the right “Calls to Action” or writing your RFP (Request for Proposals); or in a relationship and looking for guidance on how to make love last (the long tail of romantic relationships), Dating by Design can help you design your way to better relationships.

Aug 11, 2012

Dating by Design for Apartment Hunting

A post from aylanewhouse.com

Aug 8, 2012

What Hunting For A Mate Teaches You About Great Design | Co.Design

7 Traits that people look for in a mate, and/or a brand: Social Status, Attractiveness, Trustworthiness, Intelligence, Empathy, Excitement, and Ambition.

Apr 30, 2012
… when the language style of two people matched, when they used pronouns, prepositions, articles and so forth in similar ways at similar rates, they were much more likely to end up on a date.
To Predict Dating Success, The Secret’s In The Pronouns : Shots - Health Blog : NPR
Mar 27, 2012
Send your favorite typefaces on a date and see if they’re a match made in heaven!
via: typeconnection.com

Send your favorite typefaces on a date and see if they’re a match made in heaven!

via: typeconnection.com

Feb 6, 2012

James Burke - Applying analytics to relationships (by Quantified Self Amsterdam)

Feb 5, 2012
You are the CSS to my HTML <3> (via Pop Shorty)

You are the CSS to my HTML <3> (via Pop Shorty)

Dating: The problem-solving process that results in healthy, meaningful relationships when practiced consciously. My definition of dating includes love, relationships and everything in between.

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